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I've resisted joining facebook for a long time. I base this on two things:

1. My 2003 experience with friendster. not healthy.
2. I fear it will cause guest list bloating and put me out there for "Am I invited" questions, which I abhor. I don't want to re-connect with people and feel guilty about not inviting them to the wedding.

stupid or justified?

an awesome team

i dream about getting to this point in the evening after my wedding. what a day.

man code

Tuxedos. eh. *shrug* I don't care for them. FH owns one, so I guess he can wear it. I just hate bow ties, cummerbunds and those weird vests they make them wear with ties. Why all the hoopla?

what's with the vest, buddy?

I'd like a simple tie. Possibly in ivory, with his guys in a blue tie. No vests. I'd prefer suits, but got shot down by the Lazy Bride Wedding Committee that has been formed to keep me in line. The chairman is my sister, minority (dissenting in her support for me) representative is my mother and the bridesmaids making up the members. FH is brought in for expert testimony sometimes.

I casually message FH about the tuxes and I now have top hats, monocles and scepters to worry about. Sweet Jesus. Apparently I've violated the man code by even asking.

Mens Warehouse has a tuxedo Build-A-Tux tool! I'm a big fan of the Build-a-something tool. Especially the Build-a-Muppet tool at FAO schwartz. And of course the classic Build-a-South Park character. So fun.

that's me!

wedding band fun

Wedding bands...are fun things to look at.

Rings by Sakurako Shimizu, made to document the happy couple saying "I do"

me v. the knot

In a moment of insanity, I signed up for the knot.com and no amount of get-me-off-your-email-or-i-will has relieved me from their incessant anxiety inducing reminder emails.

Lazybride! You have nine months to go! Here's what you should do!

I. Have. Nine. Months. To. Go.

Apparently I have to
1. Finalize the Guest List
2. Pick out Floral Arrangements
3. Register for Gifts

1. We are still finalizing the guest list. In recent weeks, I have turned heartless, cutting once close friends who I just don't see anymore and at one time v. close work friends. With the justification that I haven't seen these people in months. However, one lives in London. So maybe if I send her an invitation she won't be able to make it...no! that's the kind of logic that got me into this mess. I sent my mother our guest list asking her to fill in our side of the family. Turns out I had completely forgotten a whole sect of my family in Chicago and some of my parents' friends. I'm not angry about the parents' friends thing, I like hanging out with old people and tend to see my parents' friends more than I see some of my own. They always compliment and feed me. What's not to like?

2. Hired a florist at the bidding of my sister (and every subsequent female) who gasped in horror when I mentioned doing my own flowers.

3. Registering...this was supposed to be the fun part, right? Well. It's not. It's tiring. Especially when your FH decides that he will spend the whole time in Bed Bath and Beyond pouting because I want china. Why would one need $2000 worth of fancy plates? I asked in response, why would one need $2000 worth of tv/video game equipment? Before he moved in, I was still in a long term relationship with my tv/vcr combo (the last one Best Buy sold in 2001). "Santa" left us a blue ray and surround sound speakers for christmas. no joke. The boy thought I would be excited opening up a blue ray box. I can barely tell the difference, but I do know that I am totally justified in my desire for fancy plates.

so there. screw you knot.com.

please don't scare me next month.

City Hall

Don't assume I haven't thought/dreamt/plotted to just walk down to city hall and get hitched. It's not just for the movies...

Pleasant-er

A few days after returning from the unnamed midwest city, I gathered a few friends and my sister for some bridesmaid dress shopping at RK Bridal and palliative how-bad-are-your-in-laws lunch afterwards.

Despite one pregnant sister's slight objections, we picked this Alfred Sung dress in midnight. RK bridal was extremely affordable. The dress should come out to $102 before shipping, alterations and taxes, who knew they were so affordable? Kind of explains their horrible website.

We have two pregnant sisters and several bridesmaids "going off" the birth control, aka pulling the goalie. I may be preceded by a line of pregnant women and recent moms. And nothing would make me happier.