Not Lazy At All

The part of me that isn't lazy is usually motivated by my frugal side. I can't bring myself to spend thousands of dollars on flowers that will die the next day. That said, I could bring myself to spend a few hundred and put them together myself. Several brides before me have done so and I think I could do a good job. I mean, dedicate some time the week of the wedding, even though everyone has warned me that this will be the busiest week of my life, visit the flower district in New York, buy some beautiful flowers and spend some time with them the day before the wedding.

My sister, and maid of honor, has taken a vigorous stance against this point of view and for some reason nothing I can say will dissuade her. She's a force, but I think I can do this.

What I will not attempt to do is the venue decor. That seems insurmountable to me in terms of logistics, especially because the venue won't let anyone set up until they are done with brunch service for the day, which will be when we are getting married.

I'm considering using the following vendors, if anyone knows anything about this/has experience in NYC, let me know!

Fisher & Page Ltd.
134 West 28th Street
New York, New York 10001
212-645-4106
www.fischerandpage.com

G. Page Wholesale Flowers
120 West 28th Street
New York, New York 10001
212-741-8929
www.gpage.com

I'm thinking of doing a test run this October to see what is in season and what I can get. There is nothing I love more than some ranunculus and peonies, but I don't think they go together. G. Page lists the flowers that were available the year before by week, which is a great resource. I've dabbled a bit in the ordering "Wedding Flowers in a Box", but the idea of being stuck with something the day before your wedding that might be blooming, might have wilted in the truck or might get lost just gives me anxiety. But it's a great idea!

Lazy about color decisions

Ugh, decisions. They haunt me like the haunt no other Libra out there. I'm feeling pressure, and by pressure I mean I've fielded a few questions from the future MIL, about picking a color scheme. My only rule is no brown. My mother had brown bridesmaids dresses in 1970 and for some reason, they're back. I made fun of her then and my words to one recent bridesmaid were, "at least you can use it as a costume later" but that was for a very specific trend combination: brown + material gathered randomly in the skirt. horrid.

Thanks to Kathryn at Snippet and Ink, my favorite color schemes thus far are:

Pumpkin and Wheat


Burgundy and Blue


Green, White and Black


I'm too lazy to come up with my own!

Bridal Party Gifts

I know it is way too early to be thinking about these things, but after my daily read of wedding blogs, I found some very interesting takes on wedding party gifts. I've only been a bridesmaid twice and both times was just happy to do whatever the bride told me because I was so happy to stand up for my sister and my close friend. I didn't care so much about the horrid dresses and the stupid sizes they made me order (that could not be taken in because of excessive ruching). The gifts I received reflected the tastes of those brides: a tiffany cross and a kate spade monogrammed bag.

So, if I were to follow that same vein, it would be something like this gem of a necklace from chookmook's shop on etsy:
It can be hand stamped with different words and I would have the words associate with my bridesmaids: Sister, Camp, Laugh, Friend or one word for all of them like: Heart. I would shy away from something silly and conventional like Love, but that would be nice too... you can barely make it out, but the necklace in the picture says Believe.

This is way in the future...or like 12 months away. While on a budget, I don't think that you have to give gifts, but I do think it is nice.

Sidenote: Groomsmen gifts always suck. For example, the massive (engraved) Cleveland Browns mug living in my apartment and taking up half of the glass space in my cupboard. Totally leaving that up to FH.

I'm lazy...and a bride to be

There are many bride blogs out there. Written by some very over active brides. While I am not judging their need to hand stamp 150 envelopes because it looks nicer than the way regular mail looks, I do, sometimes, question their sanity. Just as I question my own for reading why one would hand stamp their envelopes, where, how, and what it would cost.

I will not be hand stamping my invites. I also don't plan on gocco-ing my own invites. There are professionals out there who can do it for you. and for cheap.

My vision of a wedding is a simple party, with those who you love enjoying themselves on some good food at an adequately sized location. I am also on a budget, as the FH (future husband, took a lot of blog reading to figure that out) and I will be paying for the majority of the wedding.

Complicating factors include a large guest list made up of my insanely large extended Irish Catholic family and good friends made over the course of high school, college, two moves and 5 jobs since graduating college, and our location in New York City. The most expensive city in the world.

I hope to share what I've learned in the first few months of wedding plans, hope to be a resource for other NY brides and maybe learn a thing or two. Because while I want a simple party, it would be nice if it looked nice and ran smoothly...things that a lazy bride like myself recognize the need for other people to help out with.