Monday, August 10, 2009

I'm a Survivor

A lazy bride's coping mechanism for difficult family:

Tip #1
Make sure everyone is on the same page. If your FH doesn't see a control battle/power struggle when it is obvious to you, sit back and watch for a while. State the obvious, without any slant, it will hit him/her eventually.

Tip #2
When your FH is cursing out his own parents, stand back. You have/want no part of this.

Tip #3
When faced with confronting a situation head on vs. putting it off to the wedding, confront, start fresh, encourage deep breaths, we are all adults here.

Tip #4
If the sleeping arrangements are not clear to you and you live in the apt/house, state your desires before they arrive and have your significant other define those terms to his/her parents, this will end up beautifully with you in your bed and not the air mattress

Tip #5
If the car isn't air conditioned, look on the bright side, at least you don't have to talk to them with the wind drowning out everything but your own thoughts.

Tip #6
Exercise your right for alone time, go to the supermarket alone, leave the situation, if you must claim sickness, do so.

Tip #7
When your significant other tries to gloss over the weekend as not so bad, highlight the one, most egregious infraction that goes against the core of your values and principles so that they don't forget what you just went through for their family.

Tip #8
Live at least 4 states from said difficult people.

3 comments:

the un-bride said...

Wow ... glad you're still with us!

Desaray said...

i love tips ;}

PDX Bride said...

Sounds like my in-laws . . . well make that my difficult father-in-law you are talking about!